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Saturday, January 28, 2012

Sore Losers or Bad Parenting

It is Saturday morning which means I am just back from my oldest son's basketball game.  I love these games.  Finally we have reached an age when they actually keep score in sports.  I have spent years with different sports that are just for teaching, and everybody gets a trophy at the end because everybody participates.  That was well enough but I am happy to finally be at a competitive level as it makes it more exciting for the kids, it also teachers them that you can't win them all.

I must say that I have been impressed with all the kids throughout this season.  Not just the kids on my son's team but on all the teams we have faced.  They play hard, they play fair and they have fun (which is great for 9 and 10 year olds).  My son's team has only lost one game so he is usually happy after the game, and the teams that have been great and understood that sometimes you win sometimes you lose.  That is until today's game.

The game started off ok, we were winning but the other team was holding their own.  The game went well until the end.  It was a jump ball and the kid from the other team BIT the kid from our team.  Yes, bit, with his teeth, left a mark even.  And as if that wasn't enough he then scratched.  Then to top it all of when they were standing up the kid threw a punch!  This is a nine year old we are talking about.  And the whole time this kid's mother is sitting there watching, not saying a word.  After the thrown punch the kid lay down on the ground and threw a tantrum like a 3 year old would.  The mother finally decided to get up, walk out to him and comfort him.  COMFORT!!!  WTF!!!!!  He just bit a kid for goodness sake.  If that was my kid he would not be getting comforted he would be over apologizing for what he had done, heck then when we got home we would be writing a note to again apologize because he would have nothing better to do because he would be grounded!

So I guess my question is when did parents become such pussies?  When was it more important to coddle a child then to make them realize there are consequences for their actions?  I see crap like this every day at both the school and the restaurant I work in.  These kids rule the roost.  Now don't get me wrong, I am not a perfect parent, not even close, but my kids know the difference between right and wrong, and when the fuck up they are called on it.  I just wish more parents would open their eyes to the monsters they are creating. 


  1. I second this WHOLE sentiment. I'm not a perfect parent at all, but my daughter has morals. Sure, she doesn't like losing, but she understands not everyone can win all the time.

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  3. I swear we are long lost sisters or something, I could have written this word for word. I totally agree and see it all the time, not only in the sports my sons compete in but the baton/pom competitions that my daughter competes in also(usually worse, some of those moms are totally like the dance moms show). I can't believe some of the shit that I see parents comforting their children for, when they should be smacking their ass, or at least immediately removing them to go home and sit in their room for the rest of the day. (sorry spelling error, reposted)

    1. Well I am happy to be your long lost sister:) If you think that was bad, just wait until I write my blog about the sweet 16 party that came into work last night, ouch! Glad you enjoyed and I love your blog too!

  4. It is interesting that they discuss kids who are bullied, teachers and school administrators ignoring bullies, but never a word about the parents of the bullies.

    Thanks for the comment on my blog! I like yours too.

  5. I think you may have seen my similar story on before it magically disappeared. It's crazy how parents allow their children to act this way but as I said on my post, many times the parents act like idiots so what would you expect of their children?